The more we can get to know and understand ourselves and our cycles, the more we’re able to warn our partners ahead of time, “hey, this week I may get more irritated than usual, don’t take it personally, I still deeply love you, I’m just being hijacked by my hormones, and this is how it is”. Our partner could say something to us one day that just goes right over our heads and we don’t think twice about it, but they could say exactly the same thing with the same tone the next week, however that could tip us over into a rage, or fill us with feelings of being useless and hopeless. Let’s talk about women for a second: our minds and our bodies fluctuate throughout the month. That’s why it’s our responsibility to get to know ourselves the very best we can. Now if we don’t know ourselves intimately, then how the heck can we expect another to know us intimately? The point is to be aware of our actions, and the consequences of them.īecause every thought, every word and every action, has an impact and has a consequence, potentially either positive or negative. Is it full of the tone that irritates others and creates conflict? Remember, what if this was your last day together? Responsibility for our words, our actions, and the consequences of them. And most importantly it’s about accountability.īeing accountable to ourselves, and also to the relationship, because acceptance is a big part of forgiveness, and forgiveness is a big part of acceptance. The beauty of this metaphor is that it sets the tone for understanding relationships are about adaptability, they’re about acceptance, they’re about awareness, both of ourselves and of others. But that doesn’t mean the dance is over, it just means you get back up and you come in with a renewed sense of intention and purpose to make a go of it. There’s going to be missteps, there’s going to be times when we’re out of rhythm, all of those things which happen in a dance. And instead of expecting our relationships to always be perfect, it’s helpful to see our relationships as a continuous dance. It’s a fact of life that there’s regular ups and downs. The best relationship we can have, is not the relationship with another person, but the relationship with ourselves.
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